Are you waiting on others to make a move so that you can then make a move? If you are that means you are playing a game of chess and you are waiting on your opponent to move their knight so that you can then checkmate. However, if you are not playing chess then there really is no reason to place your life on hold because you are waiting on someone to make a move towards you or your life. One of the biggest reasons for resentment in any kind of relationship is the sacrificing an individual does for family, for a spouse, partner or for a job and not getting anything in return. We listen to half-truths, empty promises, innuendos and then we get our hopes up high with expectations.
Now what
happens when we realize that those promises were empty? Your hopes and
dreams gets dashed violently to the ground where they smither into
smithereens. You are now left with a series of questions - why, why,
why? You start to go crazy wondering what happened and when that
question is not answered, you begin to lose it wondering how can people
treat others with so little regard.
Now here is the hard truth and
believe me I have had a hard time swallowing it myself. The hard truth
is if someone can get away with stepping in and out of your life and do
as they please knowing that you are not going anywhere they will take
advantage of your free time. You have a lot of free time on your hands
if someone can walk in and out of your life whenever they please and you
keep taking them back with whatever new excuse of the day that they
give you. I bet you if you were busy in your life and doing you, others
would not be able to hijack your precious time. Because when you do get
some free time in your busy life you would guard it so preciously.
Now
you maybe saying that it is selfish to not be for others and you will
be right. However, it is also selfish to not be for yourself too. I have
learned that the hard way. I was always doing for everyone and everyone
was quite happy with it. I put my life on hold in order to be for
others, while those others were quite happily being for themselves and
quite happily taking and taking and taking some more from me never ever
thinking of the sacrifices I made for them. They treated me horribly
because I was so "doing for them". The minute that I realized how much
of me I had sacrificed over the years and how many of my dreams I had
put on hold for others and started being for myself, the knives, the
axes got sharper and the blows started to come in rapidly. But I have
made a promise to myself that no more will I sacrifice my life, waiting
and doing for others and putting my life and my dreams on hold.
The
thing is, while you are putting your life on hold waiting for others,
they are happily going about in their lives knowing that you are there
when they are ready to use you or wipe their dirty feet on you. Even
worse when they are laughing at you and your so-called "stuck life".
They don't even realize that your life is stuck because you were doing
for them. What's worse, they will throw it in your face that they never
asked you to do anything.
There is nothing more rewarding than
living your life for you, no matter how many people dislike you for it.
You should not be living an ordinary life. Instead, live an
extraordinary life. You are deserving of it and it is your birthright.
You only have one life to live so live it boldly and beautifully and
watch as your world turn into something dynamic. You will find that the
people who once loved you will now hate you because you are no longer
sacrificing your life for them. They may even try to block your life
from moving forward, however, you are the captain of your life-ship and
you can turn your life compass into any direction that you choose.
Always
treat your life and your time as precious and when you do you will not
allow anyone to violate your time and your life. If someone is expecting
you to put your life on hold and wait on them, appreciate where they
are in their life, however, you need to respect your life and keep it
moving. If you wish to wait on someone, make sure your life is not being
sacrificed. Do it because you wish to and not because of empty
promises, half-truths and innuendos.
Do not give up yourself for
someone else. You are just as important. So value your life and your
time. If others wish to be apart of your life they will need to respect
and value your time and your life. Become busy in your life with your
dreams and goals that when others come in contact with you, you will
know right away if they are either with and for you or they are
traveling in a different direction. That way no one's time is wasted or
sacrificed. You will begin to feel happier within yourself because you
are now fulfilling your dreams and goals instead of sacrificing yourself
for others.
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