Tuesday, February 10, 2015

The Other Half

For those of you who are searching for a "humsafar" (accomplice) who is partial to the same travel objectives, same eateries, same films, same music, same wall decorations, same Television slots or has the same comical inclination, same wedding trip plans, basically same everything, and are attempting to discover one, may God favor you with a comparable accomplice, perhaps a clone. Clearly, of the inverse sex. 

Here, I am speaking particularly around a courteous fellow who was referred to in our region as 'Banku-Kaku' or Banku Uncle. In the event that you don't figure out how to have much data about Kolkata's suburb culture, all the adult men here are either Kaku (Chacha or fatherly uncle) or Jethu (Tau or senior fatherly uncle). Nobody will stimulate you if called Mom (maternal uncle) and God knows why. In any case, this dried out Banku Kaku and his minimal overweight wife Chumki Masi had likely nothing in like manner. They were certainly not 'the same' and them two were embarrassed not to be 'the same'. Likely their marriage was the greatest mishap after Titanic. Coincidentally, the savvy peruser would have officially speculated that for the same obscure reason, all the ladies would be called Masi (Mousi or maternal auntie) and not Pisi (Bua or fatherly close relative). 

When I landed my first position, this 'Kaku-Masi' couple welcomed me for supper on a Sunday evening. From what I recall, the night was noteworthy. On that pugnacious nighttime, I saw that it is so hard to turn into a judge. For each and every issue, them two used to take a gander at me for backing with two sets of mercilessly serious eyes. Why Jyoti Basu doesn't grin, why rooms ought to dependably have white dividers, why Banku Kaku's manager is not a noble man and then some - The points were spouting down like a torrential slide. 

I at last comprehended why they had chosen to welcome me. There were hundreds and a huge number of pending undecided issues in their lives and they had never discovered a patient audience who could give a judgment. I acknowledged they were getting a charge out of this bi-polarization and it kept them alive. Kaku was undisciplined to the center and Masi was generally careful. Kaku was a wild squanderer while Masi was niggardly. Kaku was a comrade and Masi was a devotee of Loknath Baba. 

I'm certain, till today they are as yet contending, be it a sentimental winter evening, a sultry summer twelve, an extravagant pre-winter morning or a stormy night. They never considered partition in light of the fact that they are entwined like light and shadow. They kept the equalization of their family-pontoon by paddling it in two inverse bearings. They were not adversaries, they were simply integral to one another. 

I was so impacted by this bi-polar couple that when I began hunting down an accomplice for myself, I never searched for a social clone. As in our socio-political framework, banners of distinctive sentiments keep India going, the corresponding speculation example of several makes a family dynamic and adjusted. Obviously, you must be sufficiently equitable to appreciation the resistance's voice. Be a tyrant and there will be an uneasy quiet in your home. 

Numerous couples I know divided offices amongst themselves. For real outside issues, the spouse had the last word and for local issues like where to go, whom to welcome, what to purchase and so forth the wife had the last word. They were likewise cheerful. For your situation, the best proposal I can make is - Pick your own particular manner! 

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